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I Hate Girls Who Flirt With My Fiancé

I am 4 months pregnant. I noticed my fiancé has been going out with his team (at work) too often. There was this one time I tried picking him up after an event I went to, but instead of going home with me, he chose to stay with them until after midnight. They are staying at his supervisor's condo (take note: the supervisor is a woman). That night was a fight but I was not mad not because of doubting him but because he did not come with me. Then instances are repeated and I decided to pick him up after work so that he won't drink with them (again) or at least I'd be there where they are. 

And so after work, they decided to drink somewhere near the office. So I went with them and my fiancé said we won't be staying long. His supervisor told me: "Hey isn't it you are pregnant? Are you really going with us in that kind of place, for sure there is a lot of smoke inside." I only responded with smile. When we arrived at the location, my fiancé and I seated in a way the supervisor is on his other side. At first I don't care because it could be just a coincidence or the place is too crowded, but since we got there until an hour and 30 minutes after, her knees/thighs where attached to my fiancé's all along. When I noticed I moved away from him like around a feet and a half away. When he noticed I am too far from him he asked me: "What's wrong?".

Good thing I was able to keep my composure. I know I don't need to stoop down on her bitchy level. I typed a message using my phone and have my fiancé read it. This is what I typed: "I don't want to be near you, that girl who has her knees and thighs attached to yours might get jealous. I might bother her." Then he immediately moved away from her and whispered to me "I am sorry I never noticed. I didn't think of it that way."

I told him: "We are going home, NOW!". He did not respond but I know he was alarmed. When he stood up to go to the restroom instantly after that, that supervisor probably have noticed that I already knew what she was doing. Although I still smiled to everyone, she probably noticed the smile is different now. She immediately called another member of the team to seat beside her while my fiancé was at the rest room.

When he got back we immediately left after bidding goodbye to everyone, except her. While walking towards the vehicle I told him: "She was already doing that for a long time. That probaby started when you always go to her place. My instinct is not wrong. What I was thinking all along isn't wrong. I know something is going on while you have been always away. She's already too comfortable doing that. It only means she's been doing it, and you do not disagree on whatever she does. For Godsake, I am pregnant. She should be thankful I did not slap her in the face."

He reassured me he didn't put any malice on it and he's not sure if that really happened at the condo because her husband is there. I told him that I trust him, but I don't trust her. That is probably why my first impression to this supervisor is already negative. According to my research she is really the bitchy type. She had an affair with someone while married to her husband. And the affair started when they always drink together.

I gave my man an ultimatum. I told him that he shall never go to anywhere with that girl without me.

Voluntary Contributions

I know someone. She was a high school student back when I heard this story. Just like what any other person can experience, she and her family went through some kind of financial difficulty. As such, she finished her 2nd year of secondary education, but was unable to comply with some of the school's monetary contributions.

Here in the Philippines, it is a common scenario that the government schools offer free education. In reality, it is not really free though. Upon enrollment, there are enrollment fees, examination fees, and miscellaneous fees (where "miscellaneous" was used so that there will be no definition of what these fees are). At one point, as a parent, it's not bad to shell out a little amount of money for entrusting your children to the school. To think of it, if quality education will be provided to the students, these fees could be incentives for good teachers, it is the only way the school can profit from anyway. Nevertheless, it's a government school, and government schools should have allotted budget for these children's education. Philippine Government should be paying for these kids' expenses. 

If you are a Filipino or at least you know a Filipino middle class family with kids going to school, it is common for you to know or hear about "PTA", "GPTA", & voluntary contributions. Ironically, these so called "voluntary contributions", are not voluntary at all. Because if it is, no one gives a shit if you contribute or not. Take note: all these contributions are all monetary in form.

This is where the story starts. This female student consistently performs in class from the first to the third grading period. And before the school year ends it was announced that she was included in the top ten students of her class. As I have mentioned, her family encountered a financial difficulty that school year and she was not able to pay for the PTA "voluntary" contributions. And because of that financial issues, she and her family needed to transfer locations.

The day that their report card was announced to be released, her parents requested her Grandmother who still lives in the same city where they used to live, to get her report card on their behalf since they are far away. To her Grandma's surprise, her class Adviser would not release her report card unless the "voluntary" PTA contribution of P575.00 was paid in full.

I find it ridiculous. This young lady is studying in a Barangay High School, which is also a Government School of course. Studying in this school should be free! Taxes deducted from her parent's salary and all other employed Filipinos should  be used to provide the school everything that it needs to operate. And the girl clearly played her part as a student. A performing student should be given proper recognition. That is my next argument.

When her Grandmother almost left, she saw the teacher walk towards the chalk board. She went to the part where the Top Ten students were listed. The girl's name is listed next to the number 10. Her Grandmother was not able to say anything when she saw the teacher erased her Grand daughter's name from the list. The old woman shook her head, and turned away.

I felt very sad. Time, effort and intelligence was invested by that young lady. She probably spent sleepless nights just to hit the 10th spot. and just because she cannot pay P575.00, she will never get the recognition for all her accomplishments. The mere reason why her parents chose to enroll her in a government school is to get away from tuition fees, etc. I also felt sorry that when I looked in the eyes of this girl, she doesn't seem to be interested in fighting for the 10th position and she doesn't seem to have that encouragement to  do the same or even better for the next school year. 

Just because of poverty, and not being able to comply to voluntary contributions, we just lost the heart of a hardworking student. If she will regain her desire to be on top, we would never know.